• be alone with yourself often. Spend some quality time having deep thoughts in order to identify with yourself, who you are, what you desire and more importantly what makes you happy. You may be the person that needs to be happy again especially if you are dealing with a mid-life crisis.
• Take the control back. Influence yourself instead of allowing others to influence you. After all, how can you identify with yourself when you are allowing others to create your identity for you by putting their advice above your own. Your desires should be the most important of all.
• Think about the things you enjoy doing and then do them. I can not think of a better way to find your identity or avoid a mid-life crisis than by being you and doing the things that you love most.
Solutions for Identity Issues
Few people are trained by their parents on how to show or express emotions. Later in life, our competitive societies often insist that people ignore or deny their emotions. Many people are encouraged to not-feel! If you ask people how they feel - the most common answer is "Not bad".
Ask a man what he feels and he will tell you what he thinks.
Ask a woman what she thinks and you may hear how she feels.
Some people seem exceptionally dissociated from their own feelings. They may seem normal, and are often intelligent, yet they seem insincere, shallow and dry to people who enjoy talking about feelings. Dissociated people may say that they feel empty - but under the emptiness are often layers of grief, fear, anger, boredom and unworthiness.
Probing this emptiness can disturb people who prefer to avoid their feelings - which they may call irrational, stupid and childish. But if some crisis, real or imagined, precipitates an emotional explosion, then their next step may be to seek drugs or psychiatric medication. What else can they do?
We help dissociated people regain access to their feelings and to their identity. We are careful about coaching people with these symptoms as this often means exploring disturbing emotions. This coaching is for basically healthy and motivated people who want to feel as well as think.
Identity Loss, Dissociation & Dissociative Disorders
Most children who are punished for expressing their feelings of anger, sadness and anxiety learn to hide, bury or dissociate their feelings. When these emotions return - triggered by some event - the emotions are unlikely to be appropriate for the current, changed environment. The expression of buried emotions may be called emotional disorders, personality disorders or psychosomatic symptoms.
If dissociated emotions remain dissociated, this loss of personal identity may impair relationships, inhibit memory and limit flexibility. Dissociative disorder refers to behavior patterns typical of people who repress unpleasant emotions that are associated with traumatic or abusive memories and relationships.
Few people with identity loss or dissociative disorders can define their goals; and endless encouragement or goalwork may not help them. The best goals they can provide may be abstract or incongruent (often stated as abstract complaints e.g. I don't want to feel so empty all the time!
[Include some basic psychobiology of cerebral cortex - hind-brain communication].
People who sabotage their own goals
For us, identity loss refers to a loss of self. Many people, following trauma, abuse, membership in cult-like organizations, or therapy damage, appear to lose access to some of their human qualities. These qualities may be replaced with unpleasant emotional reactions, compulsive behavior and confusing communication. People with identity loss rarely express many emotions nor much personality.
I felt hollow, like I was disappearing. The only thing that gave me comfort was sleep. I wanted me back. Nothing gave me real pleasure. I just wanted to sleep and cry ... and then our wonderful sessions ... now I am back Miami, USA
Extreme cases of identity loss may be called nervous breakdown or emotional breakdown. Many people become frustrated, angry and anxious, and later dull and empty, devoid of anything except irritation and boredom. A rich sense of life may be replaced by a need for distraction.
I used to be full of life and had lots of energy, but since my divorce I feel totally empty ... I am 41 ... I am diagnosed with chronic fatigue ... but it's more like a huge part of me is missing.
All I do is watch television. When can we start? Leeds, UK
Some common symptoms that we help people resolve are:
1. Expresses few goals and little sense of self
2. Cannot describe feelings or express own values
3. Feels unpleasantly bonded to someone, yet cannot leave
4. Shows obsessions, compulsions and strong limiting beliefs
5. Goals swing between two extremes (may be diagnosed as bipolar)
6. Attempts to live someone else's life, showing chronic irrational emotions
Many people experience these common symptoms sometimes. If the lost qualities represent a significant portion of a person's identity, the symptoms of identity loss become easier to recognize.
People may lose access to some of their human qualities during or following trauma, abuse, therapist damage or membership in cult-like organizations. This loss of self may accompany or follow stress or distress at home or at work. Depression is common if life lacks sense.
We describe Identity Loss as an inability to access emotions and qualities that are central to a sense of self and sense of life. This loss often follows abuse or relationship distress and manifests as chronic dissociation or the chronic expression of inappropriate emotions.
A few people become desperate, and may harm themselves or others. Such people may feel armored, invulnerable and emotionless. They are unsuitable for Skype coaching and should seek local agencies.
Sometimes a search for sense of life is replaced by fantasies. Many people try to lose themselves in movies, video games, esoteric paths or sporting events. Living life is replaced by distractions.
We help motivated adults recognize, resolve and prevent identity loss,
and find solutions for chronic anger,chronic sadness and chronic anxiety.
Dissociation & New Age Techniques
Dissociating is easy. Many so-called therapies and New Age techniques specialize in dissociation. Have you been advised to clear your emotions, to throw away your self-talk, to destroy your ego, to leave your intellect behind you? Have you been advised to ask some deity or esoteric entity to take your thoughts or feelings away? The consequences of such cures can be worse than the symptoms ...
Dissociation is simple - but the consequences often include a loss of identity. Repeated dissociation may result in long-term identity loss; which is often followed by addictive and obsessive behavior, and membership in cult-like organizations, as people strive to feel human and connected again.
We help motivated adults recognize, resolve and prevent identity loss; and find lasting solutions. We help people find themselves again. We help people learn from their past to create a future. We coach people to resolve emotions - and clarify the relationships in which those emotions were created.
Recovering identity loss includes recovering your feelings and emotions that were dissociated during stress or suggestion. As you accept and resolve your unpleasant feelings, all your emotions become wonderful resources for your integrated personality.
For us, there's no such thing as a bad feeling or a negative emotion!
Part 2: Solutions for Identity Issues
Resolve Identity Loss
We help motivated adults resolve identity loss. We coach people to dissolve the original stress or abuse and recover the unpleasant emotions that were denied, hidden or split off. We help people explore and change these unpleasant feelings and emotions to become wonderful life resources.
• Take the control back. Influence yourself instead of allowing others to influence you. After all, how can you identify with yourself when you are allowing others to create your identity for you by putting their advice above your own. Your desires should be the most important of all.
• Think about the things you enjoy doing and then do them. I can not think of a better way to find your identity or avoid a mid-life crisis than by being you and doing the things that you love most.
Solutions for Identity Issues
Few people are trained by their parents on how to show or express emotions. Later in life, our competitive societies often insist that people ignore or deny their emotions. Many people are encouraged to not-feel! If you ask people how they feel - the most common answer is "Not bad".
Ask a man what he feels and he will tell you what he thinks.
Ask a woman what she thinks and you may hear how she feels.
Some people seem exceptionally dissociated from their own feelings. They may seem normal, and are often intelligent, yet they seem insincere, shallow and dry to people who enjoy talking about feelings. Dissociated people may say that they feel empty - but under the emptiness are often layers of grief, fear, anger, boredom and unworthiness.
Probing this emptiness can disturb people who prefer to avoid their feelings - which they may call irrational, stupid and childish. But if some crisis, real or imagined, precipitates an emotional explosion, then their next step may be to seek drugs or psychiatric medication. What else can they do?
We help dissociated people regain access to their feelings and to their identity. We are careful about coaching people with these symptoms as this often means exploring disturbing emotions. This coaching is for basically healthy and motivated people who want to feel as well as think.
Identity Loss, Dissociation & Dissociative Disorders
Most children who are punished for expressing their feelings of anger, sadness and anxiety learn to hide, bury or dissociate their feelings. When these emotions return - triggered by some event - the emotions are unlikely to be appropriate for the current, changed environment. The expression of buried emotions may be called emotional disorders, personality disorders or psychosomatic symptoms.
If dissociated emotions remain dissociated, this loss of personal identity may impair relationships, inhibit memory and limit flexibility. Dissociative disorder refers to behavior patterns typical of people who repress unpleasant emotions that are associated with traumatic or abusive memories and relationships.
Few people with identity loss or dissociative disorders can define their goals; and endless encouragement or goalwork may not help them. The best goals they can provide may be abstract or incongruent (often stated as abstract complaints e.g. I don't want to feel so empty all the time!
[Include some basic psychobiology of cerebral cortex - hind-brain communication].
People who sabotage their own goals
For us, identity loss refers to a loss of self. Many people, following trauma, abuse, membership in cult-like organizations, or therapy damage, appear to lose access to some of their human qualities. These qualities may be replaced with unpleasant emotional reactions, compulsive behavior and confusing communication. People with identity loss rarely express many emotions nor much personality.
I felt hollow, like I was disappearing. The only thing that gave me comfort was sleep. I wanted me back. Nothing gave me real pleasure. I just wanted to sleep and cry ... and then our wonderful sessions ... now I am back Miami, USA
Extreme cases of identity loss may be called nervous breakdown or emotional breakdown. Many people become frustrated, angry and anxious, and later dull and empty, devoid of anything except irritation and boredom. A rich sense of life may be replaced by a need for distraction.
I used to be full of life and had lots of energy, but since my divorce I feel totally empty ... I am 41 ... I am diagnosed with chronic fatigue ... but it's more like a huge part of me is missing.
All I do is watch television. When can we start? Leeds, UK
Some common symptoms that we help people resolve are:
1. Expresses few goals and little sense of self
2. Cannot describe feelings or express own values
3. Feels unpleasantly bonded to someone, yet cannot leave
4. Shows obsessions, compulsions and strong limiting beliefs
5. Goals swing between two extremes (may be diagnosed as bipolar)
6. Attempts to live someone else's life, showing chronic irrational emotions
Many people experience these common symptoms sometimes. If the lost qualities represent a significant portion of a person's identity, the symptoms of identity loss become easier to recognize.
People may lose access to some of their human qualities during or following trauma, abuse, therapist damage or membership in cult-like organizations. This loss of self may accompany or follow stress or distress at home or at work. Depression is common if life lacks sense.
We describe Identity Loss as an inability to access emotions and qualities that are central to a sense of self and sense of life. This loss often follows abuse or relationship distress and manifests as chronic dissociation or the chronic expression of inappropriate emotions.
A few people become desperate, and may harm themselves or others. Such people may feel armored, invulnerable and emotionless. They are unsuitable for Skype coaching and should seek local agencies.
Sometimes a search for sense of life is replaced by fantasies. Many people try to lose themselves in movies, video games, esoteric paths or sporting events. Living life is replaced by distractions.
We help motivated adults recognize, resolve and prevent identity loss,
and find solutions for chronic anger,chronic sadness and chronic anxiety.
Dissociation & New Age Techniques
Dissociating is easy. Many so-called therapies and New Age techniques specialize in dissociation. Have you been advised to clear your emotions, to throw away your self-talk, to destroy your ego, to leave your intellect behind you? Have you been advised to ask some deity or esoteric entity to take your thoughts or feelings away? The consequences of such cures can be worse than the symptoms ...
Dissociation is simple - but the consequences often include a loss of identity. Repeated dissociation may result in long-term identity loss; which is often followed by addictive and obsessive behavior, and membership in cult-like organizations, as people strive to feel human and connected again.
We help motivated adults recognize, resolve and prevent identity loss; and find lasting solutions. We help people find themselves again. We help people learn from their past to create a future. We coach people to resolve emotions - and clarify the relationships in which those emotions were created.
Recovering identity loss includes recovering your feelings and emotions that were dissociated during stress or suggestion. As you accept and resolve your unpleasant feelings, all your emotions become wonderful resources for your integrated personality.
For us, there's no such thing as a bad feeling or a negative emotion!
Part 2: Solutions for Identity Issues
Resolve Identity Loss
We help motivated adults resolve identity loss. We coach people to dissolve the original stress or abuse and recover the unpleasant emotions that were denied, hidden or split off. We help people explore and change these unpleasant feelings and emotions to become wonderful life resources.
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